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Regaining control after divorce.

by Hills » Sun May 10, 2015 8:47 am

Is there anyone who can offer some good advice on gaining control over ones life, late on, after a divorce following a marriage of 30 years. I was abused emotionally and financially so the divorce was my choice and decision. I now find that I'm being'chased' by the local council to pay a bill which he failed to pay for the lady year he was in the property even though I want there. This is in spite of the fact that he was ordered to pay all outgoings on the property until it sold. I'm so stressed over the whole divorce which took three years and cost me a fortune and as I said, is still taking its toll on my life. Hoe does one improve ones mental muscle
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Re: Regaining control after divorce.

by Chris » Tue May 12, 2015 6:03 pm

Unfortunately there is no quick solution
but there is lots that you can do to help yourself.

The key is:
It's not what happens, that matters
but
how you respond to it.


Recognise that the divorce is not you.
Think of it as an event that you are observing.

You need to learn to control your mind
so that it doesn't control you
and keep taking you back to the divorce over and over again.

How?

Every time your mind allows an unwanted thought to enter your head
acknowledge that it's arrived
and simply say "Here & Now" to yourself
and focus on what's around you.

That puts you squarely back in control
of what's happening in your head.

It's very simple but not that easy to do.

However with practice, you'll improve
and slowly but surely gain control over your mind.

Good luck and let us know how you get on

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